Summary: Many people wonder, what’s a good reason to get plastic surgery? Should you get it because your boyfriend has hinted at it? Should you get it because your mother has hinted at it? The answer to both questions is, in most cases, no. Typically, you should only get plastic surgery when you want it—when you want the change in the way you look. Unfortunately, there is definitely some gray area in that regard, as we often also want others to be happy with us. It’s worth taking some time to examine these motivations, then.
A Common Question
What’s a good reason to get plastic surgery? This question is at the heart of many discussions regarding the benefits and pitfalls of plastic surgery. Ultimately, the motivations that go into these procedures are incredibly important because they have a good amount of bearing on the feelings about outcomes. So that’s why we’re taking a quick look at what’s being said about superstar Mariah Carey. It’s been reported through various tabloid-esque and gossip-machine channels that Carey is considering plastic surgery in order to look better for her current boyfriend (who, I guess, happens to be a billionaire… not that Carey is necessarily hurting for money, we suppose).
Now, according to these same gossipy rumors, Carey’s boyfriend isn’t necessarily applying pressure. It’s just that Carey wants to look her absolute best for him and isn’t convinced that’s a look she currently possesses. Now, this brings up an interesting conundrum. In most cases, plastic surgeons will advise patients not to get plastic surgery for anyone but themselves and certainly not if they are receiving any pressure from other parties. But, in a way, even though she wants to do it for her boyfriend, Carey is the only one applying any pressure. And this is hardly a unique situation.
So What’s a Good Reason to Get Plastic Surgery?
Indeed, it can be difficult to separate where certain pressures are coming from, and whether those pressures are an acceptable reason to get plastic surgery or not. So let’s take a look at some of these pressures, keeping in mind that most of them are self-initiated (at least to some degree). But that doesn’t mean that we are somehow blaming people for feeling these pressures. They are all, in fact, quite normal. And it’s normal to respond to these pressures. Remember that this is a judgment-free zone, is all we’re really saying here.
- Work Pressures: We’ve written in other places about how getting cosmetic procedures and the like can actually be good for your career. You can get a Botox treatment or a facelift before that big promotion interview and really feel confident about the way you look. This is a good thing. But there is some concern that some might feel pressured to get plastic surgery to keep one’s job. That’s not the kind of pressure we’re overly fond of, and we’d prefer patients not feel that kind of pressure. Plastic surgery is not supposed to be an “or else” proposition. And most studies show that you only feel great and love the results if you actually wanted the procedure in the first place.
- Relationship Pressures: As was the case with Mariah Carey, sometimes this pressure doesn’t actually come from a significant other primarily (indeed, if your significant other ever starts pressuring you to get surgery—well, that’s not a good sign). But wanting to look good for someone else is a kind of grey area. We think that’s fine, as long as you also want to look good for yourself. That’s the most important, part, after all. It might be great to impress a guy with how great you look, but it’s more important to impress yourself first.
- Family Pressures: This one might seem a little odd, or at least, a little unlikely—but there’s a lot of pressure that comes from your family to look youthful and energetic. Just think about all those family events where people comment on how worn down you look or about how good you look. Obviously, we’d all rather have the positive feedback than the negative. But it’s important to note that your family’s opinion doesn’t really matter that much. Yours is the only opinion that matters, especially when it comes to the way you look. So make sure that whatever procedure you get, you’re doing it for yourself.
Above All: Do it For Yourself
It’s important that whatever plastic surgery procedure you select, you do it for yourself. The website of the Ridgewood plastic surgeons at East Coast Advanced Plastic Surgery gives some good advice in this regard, imploring patients to have realistic expectations. Unfortunately, when the motivations for plastic surgery have more to do with others than with yourself, people tend to get unrealistic expectations: they might think that plastic surgery is going to solve all of their problems.
The problem is that, often, it doesn’t. The only thing that plastic surgery can really do is make you feel better about yourself, but it can only do that if you’re the one that wants it. Luckily, in those cases, plastic surgery usually does an amazing job at boosting confidence, self-esteem, and self-confidence.